archiecm I might have given it an "8" but I wanted to counterbalance the "7's" it got from reviewers whose words heaped praise on the film yet who's number grades didn't match those words. I laughed a lot during this film. Dave, (Ross McCall) can't commit to buying a Chai latte and so his feeling queasy about staying with his girlfriend isn't all that surprising. It REALLY IS ABOUT HIM since Carrie (Joelle Carter) is just about perfect. What gives the story punch is the committee inside Dave's head who vote on whether or not to dump Carrie. The most vocal is Neil, a misogynistic philanderer who never expresses a tender feeling for anything. He gets the most lines but the others are quite funny as well. There's Dave's inner child, Dave's accountant voice, Dave's morbid fascination with death voice and a pretty blonde female, the only one, who is sensitive and is seeking (for Dave)a meaningful lasting relationship with a good woman. She gets voted down a lot. The way they trade insults is part of the fun. But the negative voices win out and Dave dumps a perfectly good (and also pretty) girlfriend. The movie then splits into what happens to these two characters concentrating more on Dave. Carrie has a series of bad dates the funniest of which is with a man who "falls" for her in the first ten minutes. Her reaction, out loud, is to say she's changing her address and phone number and it doesn't even stop him from gushing some more. There's also a Trekkie, and a really self-absorbed Yuppie. Dave goes into therapy and does some delving into his past where the trauma occurred which instigated all his fear. This is glossed over and while there may not have been time to cover it in more detail, the quickness of it made me not believe his transformation that he professes to in the final scene. I didn't want Carrie to believe him because I didn't see enough evidence to support the change. I won't give away the ending but I wound up accepting it. It wasn't the one I expected. I happen to have this same problem in my own life (fear of falling and committing) and so I had a keen interest in the outcome. I'm not sure I learned from the story but that goes more to the complexity of the problem than the effectiveness of the film. I was impressed with the quality of the production and acting. It didn't have an indie feel, more like a normal Hollywood movie. I hope it gets widely seen. I should add that Carrie had a committee as well but her "voices" weren't as amusing to watch. Perhaps the reason for that was that they didn't strike as many chords that exist out there in the real world. The closest was Carrie's inner child who wanted to be loved and held. There was a woman in a straight jacket who was too over the top, a black chick who was too cold and calculating, and a hippie (male) who was so ephemeral and wispy that there wasn't a single utterance of his that showed even the slightest knowledge of what life is. Being pathetic isn't funny to me. I was missing the biting humor that was frequent in Dave's inner world.

jameslee101 It's rare that you see an independent film that's very well produced AND very entertaining! Nathan Ives manages to put together a very unique perspective on a story about relationships, breakups, and coming-of-age. His cast are consistently top-notch, and keep you engaged in the narrative that we've all been through at one point or another. Nathan uses interesting conventions to communicate his protagonist's internal struggles, and doesn't shy away from taking these conventions to their furthest (and most honest) logical extent! This film effectively adds to the genre that is the romantic comedy, and avoids falling into easy conventions.

brian-862-651084 My wife loves romantic comedies, so I get to see more of them than I might care to, but this one is worth watching. The characters are well developed, the dialogue is crisp and clever, and there's a palpable chemistry between the two leads. All of the actors are first rate, delivering the goods on several "laugh out loud" moments throughout the film. In particular, Ross McCall is excellent in the lead role, carrying the film from start to finish with the self-assured acting chops of just about any leading man you can think of.I really look forward to seeing how Nathan Ives, the writer/director of It's Not You, It's Me, follows up on this project. He has a real ear for dialogue, reminding me of Woody Allen, if a bit more testosterone-driven and only slightly less neurotic.

cklyles It's Not You, It's Me is a brilliant film and, might I add, hilarious! Nathan Ives' talent shines through this amazing independent film. The inner thoughts of the male and female are spot on, from the inner child to the self-doubting person. The conflict we experience in our everyday lives and relationships is shown through this inner conflict, as well as interpersonal, external conflict. It will have you laughing and finding yourself relating it to your own life's experiences. Also, the film is a great reminder of the possibilities we as individuals have to grow and change, and that it's never too late to do this. We can overcome the conflict within ourselves in order to improve relationships on the outside.