wolfbearjc I was pleasantly surprised about this movie. It was not full of gay stereotypes and clichés, in fact at times countered them, and yet I was not feeling sorry for the plight of love lorn gay men. Simply,it was about the struggles of relationships, both gay and straight, and the musings: if you did the right thing on the date, if you said or acted in an off putting manner. It addressed the issues of lack of communication and then brutal honesty, misunderstandings on not being able to commit, fear to communicate honestly of what is expected and needed out of relationship. The movie portrays the hard road of getting to know if you have the chemistry, friendship, sex appeal,sex, etc that all can make or break the fragile act of getting to know another. The acting was amazing. The camera angles captured the expressions of all the characters and their emotions of angst, anger, fear, joy, relief, trust, revelation. In the opening scenes of a first date the fear in the eyes of one of the characters was visceral. The use of colors; rust browns and blues, in clothing, sets, in various hues and exposures contributed to beauty and intimacy. The use of apartment walls and windows to follow the characters was neat and creative. So this isn't any longer, I just love the actors, the story, and camera work. It made it to my very picky "own" movie library. It is one of the best romantic comedies I have watched.

michael_hill Okay what can I say I relate to this movie. Sweet neurotic nice guy meets damaged bad boy. And guy gets guy at the end. My heart swoons. I am a big goofy romantic what can I say. Finally a movie where the gay characters are not the best friend or stylish confidant to the lovelorn female character.The cast it perfect. Good performances by everyone in the cast.Only regret is that is would have been nice for the stripper to have been interested in Eli rather than Tom. I would really have liked Tom to have been jealous and seen that Eli is just as hot in his own neurotic way.

NYCdazzle Congrats Dan. This movie was so much better than "Brokeback". Just caught it on HBO and it made me sad that i never heard of this movie but could not get away from Brokeback which was only popular because of our obsession with hunky straight male celebrity representing us. What was the big revolution with "Brokeback"? It was just another tired Hollywood love story. The characters in "All over the Guy" were masculine, funny, complex and more realistic. And no one is mentioning how the "Brokeback" movie had the lead character murdered, just like gay films have been doing since the beginning. check it out. I have never written into one of these before but had to applaud the film for out shinning the BB crap that has stolen way to much praise this past year. Pewy

giffey-1 What a refreshing movie this is! What I mean by that is here is a movie about gay men that contains people I want to meet, that I would want to be friends with. Eli and Tom are two men that are thrown together due to the fact that their respective (straight) best friends would like to build on their "meet cute". And how cute are these best friends? They are also portrayed as refreshingly normal, unlike other gay themed movies I have seen that shoehorn straight people into the movie in order to try to get mass appeal but only end up embarrassing those straight people who would want to see the movie. But I digress, The movie starts with the audience meeting two men. Eli, who is off to the AIDS test clinic, and Tom, who is off to an AA meeting. As each are at there respective appointments, the past is presented to show their relationship. The men don't get a meet cute, but their respective best friends do, in a furniture store where they bond over a "buttercup" love seat. The two then decide to use their respective gay best friends, supposedly to get them together, but actually to further their own budding romance. What an awkward first date the men have! Eli hopes his date doesn't smoke, so of course when we see them together that's what Tom does best. That and drink Absolute martinis. From there it is one awkward meeting for them after the other, both fighting an attraction they both will admit only to themselves. The families of each man are dysfunctional. I actually was far more embarrassed by Eli's, a couple of doctors who subject their small children to uncomfortable games about their feelings and only use dolls to get the kids comfortable with using correct medical terms for sexual organs. Christina Ricci gives a wonderful performance as Eli's seeming normal sister. Our meeting of Tom's parents is uncomfortable for completely different reasons, though probably much more common to many of us. The parents who suffocate themselves over what their dysfunctional lives have foisted on their children. At the wedding of the straight friends, the men finally realize what they mean to each other. I have probably left out a lot, but I think I am a little too emotionally attracted to this movie to be objective. By the time the men are dancing together and the closing song, "I'm Gonna Make You Love Me" by the Jayhawks started playing, I was actually cheering through my tears. No, this may not be a great movie, but it is one I will turn to again and again, to meet and spend time with comfortable old friends.